Dating a paranoid man
Character disorders, after all, are on a continuum; some are more acute or pathological than others.What stands out about the paranoid personality in relationships are the behaviors and how they make others feel. When Sara started dating this man, she noticed some of the characteristics in the word list above but she either dismissed them, thought they would go away, or did not think they would affect her. She didn’t know that the paranoid personality is stubborn; there is no pill you can take for it, and that those who live with someone who is paranoid pay a price—usually a high emotional price called happiness.Here are some of their words, not all, that they used to describe this personality type from their experiences: Angry, anxious, apprehensive, combative, complainer, contrarian, critical, delusional, demanding, difficult, distrustful, disturbed, eccentric, fanatic, fearful, fixated, fussy, guarded, hardheaded, inhospitable, intense, irrational, know-it-all, menacing, mentally-rigid, moralistic, obsessed, odd, offensive, opinionated, sensitive, peculiar, pedantic, quarrelsome, questioning, rigid, scary, strict, stubborn, suspicious, tense, threatening, tightly-wound, touchy, unforgiving, unhappy, vindictive, wary, watchful, withdrawn.* When we hear these terms, it should make us take note. “Honestly, I didn’t know one person in my circle of friends that knew anything about paranoia or the paranoid personality.” Unfortunately, most people don’t know what to look for.But what if someone had sat down with Sara and said, look for these behaviors, examine how being around this person makes you feel?It makes us feel very intense negative feelings, and they are usually about ourselves.
But that is a movie and life is rarely that neatly packaged.(Rodale) and wondered why there were so many articles about narcissists, psychopaths, and borderline personalities, but very little written about being in a relationship with someone who is paranoid.I couldn’t answer the why question, but she was right about the lack of written material written about those kinds of relationships.So imagine that you’ve been seeing a man for a few months, and things are going great.You like him, you like his friends, you like his moves in the bedroom. Then he sits you down and tells you that he has bipolar disorder.